Saying goodbye to 2019 is bittersweet. Not only are we saying toodles to another year we are bidding adieu to another decade. Faaackk… makes me feel old saying that. While 2019 proved to be a great year, this past decade wasn’t always peachy.
Over the holidays I did a social media digital detox to reflect on my learnings from this past decade. I wanted to share these with all of you in case they could provide some inspiration. Here are my musings for your enjoyment.
5 Valuable Lessons I Learned This Last Decade
Work Won’t Always Fulfill Your Passions
Just because your stuck in a rut at work doesn’t mean there’s not a new opportunity around the corner. I launched my blog in 2014 because I was mega bored at my job.
Little did I know that Brickellista would take me across the globe for incredible experiences! I’m so grateful for my stuck in a rut job because Brickellista may not exist without it.
Keep that in mind should you find yourself in a job rut.
Self Love Is Key
Carrie Bradshaw said it best when she said “the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.” After two emotionally draining breakups, including an engagement, this decade taught me the real meaning of having a relationship with myself.
I learned that no matter how difficult the circumstances, your little heart will bounce back.
So always take care of yourself especially if you feel a little broken inside.
Spiritual Gangster
Being super “woo woo” is okay. I never really had a spiritual side.
In 2010. Manolo Blahnik was my Hayzsus Cristo and Bloomingdale’s was my temple. But I learned to lean into new experiences and try new age hippie shit for the sake of “why-the-hell-not?”
Now I am meditating and reading about Stoicism in ways that would make Deepak Chopra proud. For the record, I still pray to the shoe gods – you’ve all seen my closet.
You can be both a shoe addict and a spiritual gangster… soooo… Namaste 🙏🏻
You can only change yo’self!
Your parents, lovers, friends, co-workers, are who they are and they will probably never change.
This decade taught me to make peace with who people are, and if someone is no longer suited for your life, wish them the best and walk away.
Most people don’t realize they are toxic, and that’s okay, but trying to change their behavior is not worth your energy! Plus, saying adios to toxic people is extremely gratifying.
Be Fearful
Lastly, lean into your fears. I learned that my biggest aha moments were preceded by moments of big fears. Let this be a reminder that fear is an important guide to help you break through with new ideas and inspiration. Lean into your fears in 2020 and over the next decade because you never know what journeys are ahead!
Hope these lessons are helpful for you in the next decade. Leave a comment with any lessons you’ve learned that will be helpful, or share on my latest Instagram post!
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As one of Miami’s top bloggers, Evelyn Torres has become one of the leading voices in fitness, fashion, and Miami. Brickellista started as a Twitter alias in 2009 and has expanded to become a lifestyle blog capturing a Miami girl’s perspective. Evelyn is a businesswoman, entrepreneur, brand ambassador and on the pulse of the Miami social scene.
Today as founder and Managing Director of BrickellistaFiles.com, Evelyn is not only the face of BrickellistaFiles, but oversees the strategy and direction. She is the driving force behind the brand and has built the go-to site for everything Miami.
